Doug and the B Brothers
Overcoming Fear and Guilt When Canine Kids Get Sick

From my upcoming book:
Evenings with Beezer: 
    Lessons on Living & Dying From My Canine Brothers 
    (spring 2009 release)

Please share this site with your pet rescue/shelter contacts.  The book will be marketed primarily through my non profit organization partners as a fund raising tool. 



(Compiled by Beezer the Black Lab from the Bridge and sent back to Earth.)



10.  Jeez!  If you’re born, you die.  Think about it dad.


9.  Fear is the real enemy, not kidney disease.  Fear is curable.  I’m with you right now, just invisible.  I’ll be waiting at the Bridge when you arrive.  Don’t be afraid.  Trust me.


8.  Live with balance.  The list of what went “right” with my life is so much bigger than the list of what went “wrong.”  My body died from kidney disease, but my spirit always soared because of you.


7.  What you focus on expands.  Honor my earthly life and memory.  Does feeling guilty help you remember all our good times, adventures and mutual love?


6.  Live with Presence!  Don’t despair about yesterday.  Don’t fear tomorrow.   Otherwise, you’ll miss out on the Gift of Today.


5.  Thank you for taking my pain into your heart on that last day.  I’m so proud of you for that selfless act.  


4.  Didn’t you always forgive me when I made a mistake?  I forgive you for any mistake you made during my illness.  You made the best decisions possible with the information available at that time.  All I took with me on my final earthly journey was our love.   Please accept my forgiveness and release the guilt.


3.  Pat yourself on the back in between crying.  Your effort to treat me was a supreme act of humanity, love and compassion.  Our relationship was never more meaningful than during my illness.  Please recognize your character and commitment.  I do.


2.  Guilt is what you humans do to punish yourself for not being perfect.


1.  You didn’t have a cure for a fatal disease.   My body stopped working because of this fatal disease, not because of something you did or did not do.



©  Doug Koktavy

May 1, 2005

Doug and the B Brothers


From my book:

The Legacy of Beezer and Boomer: 
    Lessons on Living & Dying From My Canine Brothers

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